Be nice and kind to others.



Be nice to others. Be kind to others for kindness is a language the blind can see and the deaf can hear. Be kind and nice to someone by being their shoulder. In a fast growing world where millions of people’s hearts easily turn cold, aim at being that one person who can make someone smile even in their absence.

Life can get very busy for all of us but you can still create a space of niceness and kindness for others. Be someone’s safe haven today. It does not need to cost much but it just need to be valuable. Don’t transfer your pains and hurt unto innocent people around you whose ultimate aim is just to love you and see you grow. Be nice to them.

The true gauge to measure someone’s worth is the size of their dreams and destiny but unfortunately, we cannot tell what someone’s dreams and destiny are in life by just looking into their faces.
That is why we need to be nice and considerate to others for no one knows what tomorrow holds for each one of us and the destinies of people we meet everyday are not written on their foreheads.

People die everyday and souls depart to eternity around us without us even noticing it but our little act of kindness and niceness can breathe a new life and a new sense of hope into someone around us. Indeed, everybody needs somebody  and some time in life, you cannot face the storms on your own.

It is true that not all those who you are nice and kind to will treat you same but some will definitely do. Don’t let the actions of others turn you into a cold person. Be you and do you for the world needs nice and kind people like you.

One Step At A Time.

Life won’t happen at once. Life won’t happen in one day. It is a process and we must learn to trust it.

Be persistent, consistent and persevere in life. Everything you are working on will turn out perfectly with time. 

Don’t give up yet on yourself and on your dreams for life is not a one day adventure. Keep going and keep moving on. Those who you are looking up to today were once in your shoes but they trusted the process of life and they never give up. Save yourself from unnecessary pains, regrets and anxiety by not trying to make everything happen at once. 

Life does not work in that manner. One step at a time. One move at a time. When you approach life with such mindset, you will move with purpose and ambition with your head always up because you have the assurance that no matter how long it might take, you will definitely get there. 

That project will be done. That house will be build. That academic recognition will happen. All your plans will fall into place if only you don’t rush the process. 

There are indeed better days ahead. As the saying of life goes “It is better to move slowly in life with purpose than moving fast with no direction”.

Stop blaming yourself for where you are or where you are not in life. Be grateful that a least, you are not in the same place you used to be some years back. A lot of people are looking up to you. You are perhaps the reason why they have not giving up on themselves yet so don’t give up on yourself either.

Keep going for your “congratulations message” is more imminent than you ever think.

Believe In Yourself.

Believe In Yourself.

The journey of life will throw you into situations that will demand self-motivation, self encouragement and trust in our own strength and abilities to keep moving irrespective of the challenges. You must trust your God-giving abilities and believe in yourself because no one will do that for you.

When doubt and discouragement set in, you must keep your head up and keep moving. Time will not wait for you to be ready. Stand up and chase your dreams and goals. Your mentors and role models today were once starters who never knew how today will be like for them. Don’t move away from challenges and problems. Face them and overcome them.

Be your own supporter. Be your own fan in life. Be your own motivator and above all, be everything for yourself. Learn from experiences and strive not to repeat the mistakes. The race of life is still on and the goal is to get there. A wise man once said ” One day or day one, the choice is yours to make ” for life is all about decisions and priorities.

Self doubt will retard you. Self doubt will delay you. Self doubt will slow you. Self doubt will kill your confidence. Rise up today with speed and decide to never look back and you will see yourself at the finishing line. 

You Need Courage To Stand Tall In Life.

It is obvious that for one to stand out and stand tall among all odds in life, you need courage and determination. You need courage to overcome your own fear and anxiety. Greatness will never happen out of a blue moon. You need courage and strength to execute those plans and actions. Courage in the midst of weaknesses and challenges is what will do the magic.

The world is not for timid people and neither is it for the faint-hearted. Giants don’t allow fear and mere say overshadow them. There will always be a veil covering potential and greatness in a person and the surest way for him or her to discover it is to take that bold step with courage. You need to step out in the midst of the storms and difficulties to hit that hallmark in life. It will not happen by chance or magic. 

Stop doubting yourself and your potentials. Go out there with courage and make your dream comes through. The heroes that you have heard of were risk-takers and courageous people. You are enough. You can make everything possible. Your body can do anything but only your mind you have to convince. Feed your faith over your fear and do the needful right now because tomorrow is never promised. Stop the doubt. Stop down grading yourself. You can make it and realize it if only you can step out of the fear zone with courage and determination coupled with hard work.

Yes, you can and you will. Stand up and stand tall. Prove yourself wrong by doing what you have thought you cannot. It is you against yourself and your fear. The world awaits you. The universe missed your potential. Get up and get busy at it with confidence and sooner than later, you will come to realize that you are enough to achieve greatness.  

The Time Factor.

Be conscious of the clock and the time. Life is a time-bound journey so we need to respect time and do what needs to be done as quickly as possible. Every greatness you will achieve in life will definitely has something to do with time. Check the time and start that business now. Make use of that hidden talents in you now because sometimes, the right and perfect time is now.

Sometimes, it is now or never. Stop procrastinating and stop delaying yourself unnecessarily. Start now or forget about it. We all know that there is time for everything in life and that time could be now for you. If you fail to pursue that dream of yours today because of the fear of failure or being laughed at, then you might not start it all. Do whatsoever is needed to do now because tomorrow is not promised. Our lives are very short and so we must make use of every avenue and opportunities life will give us.

Believe in your strength and abilities and take up that mantle now. Great men and women are most often people who respect time and are always on time. Great businesses thrive on time. Stand up now and do the needful because tomorrow is not guaranteed. Be time conscious and a respecter of time. Time will never wait for you to be ready and so do opportunities.

Chances and doors will not remain open for you till you are ready to take them or walk through them. The clock is still ticking and time is fast moving. It is now or never. Time is precious and it is an asset and luxury you cannot afford to waste either intentionally or unintentionally. Be on time and learn to respect time. Remember that sometimes,  it is either now or never.

Be thankful and grateful.

Be thankful and grateful for how far you have come in life. Learn to be happy for your little progress. You may not be where you wanted to be but you are definitely not where you started from or used to be. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start enjoying your little achievements. Every great and successful person you know or have heard of started on a small and meaningless note. Your exploits so far may not look great or big to people and to yourself but remember that it is worth more than nothing.

Be happy and thankful that you are still alive because some of the people who started with you are nowhere to be found. Some gave up along the way but you did not. As long as there is life, you can still achieve that which you have planned to achieve in life. Learn to appreciate your own and little efforts. Some wish they are where you are today. 

Be thankful for the journey so far. People who easily gave up were people who saw their own progress and little achievements as nothing and started seeing themselves as failures. Being happy and thankful for how far you have come in life will motivate you to do more and attempt more for yourself. Use the little knowledge gained from education coupled with determination to better your life. Some who started with you are in the grave, prisons, hospitals, etc but you are not. Why can’t you be happy and thankful for every new day you have?

Life is a journey and a process so it will take your little efforts daily to get through to the top. If you are not where you started from or used to be in life, then you need to be thankful, grateful and happy. 

First things first.

Life they say is all about priorities. To be able to achieve your ambitions in life, you need to get your priorities right. You need to know which goal to pursue first. Not all things in our lives demand the same level of attention. Getting your priorities right will help you to avoid wasting your time on less valuable things. Getting your priorities right will help you to manage the little resources at your disposal.

We often spend too much time and money on things we only want instead of spending on the things we actually need. Getting the difference between needs and wants will help you to know what to do first with your time and resources. Start doing the first things first. Concentrate on the most important things in your life.

Setting priorities will help you to make full use of your potentials in life. Some things are more important than others in your life. Productivity and personal growth in life start with setting your priorities. Do not jump on any task simply because it must be done. Some tasks require more attention and time than others. To end well, you must plan well and to plan well, you must prioritize your tasks and needs.

To be successful in life is to learn how to prioritize well in life.

People will surely judge you in life.

People will judge you in life no matter what you do or didn’t do. People are going to say what they want to say about you in one way or the other. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and so they will try to define you based on how they feel about you or on what they have heard about you. Whether you do good or bad, right or wrong, there will always be someone out there who will talk about it.

Let them talk. Let them say whatsoever they want or have to say about you because the fact is that what they think or say about you does not define you. People will judge you based on the one thing you did wrong or did not do at all. They will never focus on the good. They will never talk about the things you did right and that is one of the many aspects of society that will never change.

Don’t try to explain yourself or prove a point to anyone because they won’t believe it either. Continue being you and leave judgement to God. What they say about you is their own opinion. A clear conscience is never afraid of accusations.

Those who know your importance and worth in their lives will never fall for their cheap words. Believe it or not, some people will never like or love you no matter what you do and some people will never stop to love you no matter what you do. Live your life and do what is best for yourself and leave the critics to criticize.

Choose your friends wisely.

The kind of people you are surrounded with will either make or unmake you that is why you must be very careful with who you keep in your circle of friends. Friends matter a lot if you must move forward in life. Have you not heard or read that who you are will reflect in the company of people you keep? Choose your friends with caution.

Choose those who choose you. Choose people who believe in your ability and strength. People who accept you for who you are and not for what you can offer. Surround yourself with people who push you to do more and force you out of your comfort zone. Choose people you can proudly introduce to your pastors, parents or mentors. 

Believe it or not, the company of friends you keep will determine what will accompany you in life. Why waste your time on people who do not see the beauty of your soul or the gift and abilities in you? Why associate yourself with people who cannot correct you when you are on the wrong path?

Life is relational and no matter what, you will find yourself in different group of people willingly or unwillingly. Let your friends be your second family, home, source of motivation and strength. Don’t surround yourself with anybody. Surround yourself with people who will risk it all in their capacities to see you succeed in life. Choose people who choose you.

Give God a chance.

Living a life without God can be a dangerous adventure anyone will embark on. Why leave your creator out of your life when you did not create yourself? A life without God is a life full of trials and errors and for how long will you keep experimenting with your precious life? Haven’t you tried enough on your own? It is time you give God a chance in your life to direct your paths.

Thinking you can make it in life on your own is ok but one thing you are forgetting is that your struggles and adversities will multiply because almost every wind of life will blow you off because your foundation is shaking. I know you have heard or read about some successful people in your era who don’t believe in God and yet are doing very well and are controlling the affairs of the world in one way or the other, but one thing you don’t know is the hidden power behind their successes. 

Start living a purpose-driven life today by including God in whatsoever you are doing in life. Invite God into your education, relationship, business, work, marriage, etc. Give God an absolute control over every aspects of your life and at the right time, He will turn everything in your favor. He created you and know you better than anyone out there. Whatever you are today and will be tomorrow is in His hands.

It is time you give God a chance in your life. Let Him mend what was broken and repair the damages. He may not show up at your own time but when He finally does, His timing is always perfect. Decide to walk with Him from today and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:6

Stop living in the past.

It is ok to cast your mind back into the past to examine how far you have come and to make amends but it is never ok to allow the past experiences and circumstances control your today. Learn to live for today and not for yesterday. After all, life in itself is geared in the forward motion and not backward. Your yesterday may not be a pleasant one but that does not mean your today cannot be.

Don’t forget the lessons yesterday taught you but don’t allow those experiences to control the very pace of your life. It is a good thing to ponder over the things that went wrong or right in your past once in while but it is never good to conclude your fate in life based on them. The fact that your past might have been characterized by disappointments, hurt, regrets, pains, frustrations, betrayal, etc does not mean nothing good cannot happen in your life today.

The past may bring you tears and fear that is why you should not dwell in it. Live for today and live in the now. What was meant to happen has happened and the best thing to do is to learn from those past experiences and move on.  Learn to let the past go and start aiming at healing yourself. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and move on. 

Don’t let your past control too much of your today. Be happy for how far you have come. Learn from every mistake you have ever made and aim at becoming a better version of yourself. 

Be a helper or a teacher and not an accuser.

Is there something you think your partner is not doing right? Take your time and teach him or her. 

Many at times in our relationships or marriages, we focus too often on what our partner is not getting right instead of taking that bold step to teach him or her. None of us have it all together and at one point in time in the relationship, we need to pause and educate one another. 

Most often, your strength is your partner’s weakness and vice versa. Your area of specialization will be your partner’s area of learning or practice. Why are we in the hurry to start pointing accusing fingers at each other when the very things that are going wrong are mere behavioral lapses? Can’t someone eschew his or her ego and teach the other? 

Things change in life and so does people. Everyone can be helped to be a better version of himself or herself provided he or she is really ready to learn new things. We can all learn to be better at: cleaning the house, cooking, communicating, hospitality, etc. 

Let us eschew the constant and unnecessary complaints. Teach or educate your partner if they are not getting something right in the relationship or marriage. Let us try to bring out the best in our partners irrespective of their weaknesses and one day, they will be grateful for it. Your partner may not be the perfect type but you can help him or her to be better than they are now.

Teach your partner new things without complaining or making him or her feels like a “dumb”. Do it with a cheerful spirit and heart and they will never get tired of learning from you. Always accept each other’s flaws and stop aiming at perfection. Keep doing your very best on a daily basis and things will get better with the passage of time.